• Good Boundaries and Goodbyes

  • Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are
  • By: Lysa TerKeurst
  • Narrated by: Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress
  • Length: 7 hrs and 27 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (1,233 ratings)

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Good Boundaries and Goodbyes

By: Lysa TerKeurst
Narrated by: Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress
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2024 ECPA CHRISTIAN BOOK AWARD - AUDIOBOOK OF THE YEAR

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Relationships are wonderful . . . until they're not.

Stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships and learn biblical ways to set boundaries--and, when necessary, say goodbye.

Is it unloving or selfish to set a boundary with family members or friends? Are Christians ever called to walk away from a relationship that’s no longer safe or sustainable? #1 New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst deeply understands these hard questions in the midst of relational struggles.

After thousands of hours of counseling intensives and extensive theological research that transformed the way she defined healthy relationships, Lysa is now more committed than ever to loving people well without losing the best of who she is.

In these pages, Lysa will help you:

  • Understand the five factors to remember when implementing healthy boundaries.
  • Determine the appropriate amount of personal and emotional access someone has to you.
  • Stop being misled and emotionally paralyzed by wrongly interpreted or weaponized Bible verses that perpetuate unhealthy relationships.
  • Be equipped with effective boundary-setting tools, such as realistic scripts and practical strategies for healthier communication.
  • Be empowered to say goodbye without guilt when a relationship has shifted from difficult to destructive.
  • Receive therapeutic wisdom you can trust directly from Lysa’s Christian counselor Jim Cress, who weighs in throughout the book.

You'll be relieved to learn that boundaries aren't just a good idea, they're a God idea.

Look for additional biblically based resources and devotionals from Lysa:

  • Forgiving What You Can't Forget
  • It's Not Supposed to Be This Way
  • Uninvited
  • You're Going to Make It
  • Embraced
  • Seeing Beautiful Again

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2022 Lysa TerKeurst (P)2022 Thomas Nelson

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A must read/listen!

This book was so life-giving. The advice is spiritual, practical and based in scripture.
I am often hesitant to recommend Christian books on boundaries and relationships due to misapplied and out of context scripture. This book addresses that and does not make this mistake.
Such a helpful resource for those of us who have wrestled with and struggled with healthy boundaries! I cannot recommend enough.

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Wow!

Probably the best book on boundaries and how to both accurately verbalize and live into them I have read. Love the way they end each chapter with insights from the counselor and the author.
Overall an Excellent book.
I Highly recommend!!

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Thank you, Lysa!

This book was written for the past 13 years of my life. I'm so thankful! This book is encouraging and convicting. This book was humbling and gave me so much hope. This is the book that gave me my sense of self back. Most days I felt like I was the only one who felt like this. Now I know that's not the truth. I was isolated and made to believe that I was the problem. Now I know with all my heart that is not true. Healing is going to take a long time but I am on the other side now. Thank you, Lysa! This is what I've needed. Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is an answer to prayer. I downloaded the Kindle book and I'm going to listen to it all over while reading it at the same time so I can highlight and take notes. Time to get started. Much love, Ginger

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A true treasure

Lysa has humbly and beautifully articulated a topic that is so needed. This book beautifully shared scripture and personal experiences to relate to and understand Why we may feel the way we do in relationships and Gods design in properly navigating them. This insight is applicable to every age and degree of relating. Highly recommend this book. Will free you to protect the best of you and be who God created you to be

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This book is a must read for Christians struggling with or recovering from codependency or any sort of relational manipulation. I haven’t experienced severe trauma but decades of manipulation from a codependent relationship. And I didn’t even know boundaries could exist until I was in counseling a few years ago because I had become so deeply angry to the point of resentful. What a struggle it was to see “my person” and my relationship with clear vision. It’s still a daily act/decision to undo decades of unhealthy thought patterns and perverse twists I had been taught from Scripture.

I read Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend a few years ago, and it rocked my world, but there’s something in this book that reached the deeper, more tender places in me. I love how clearly, succinctly, and with such grace and gentleness Lysa speaks hard truths. She reminds me of my Christian counselor, and I love that hers speaks up in each chapter. She’s also the best narrator I’ve heard on Audible! Man, Lysa, if you ever stop writing, you know what your next job should be…

Will listen again and again as I continue to recover and need truth spoken and encouragement. Thank you for writing this much-needed resource!

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A Refreshing take on a MUCH NEEDED Topic

I loved this book. I’ve read books on boundaries in the past but it’s been a while and I definitely needed a nice reminder. I haven’t read a lot of this author’s books but the last book I did read was forgiving when I can’t forget, and I really appreciated that book a lot. So when I saw this book and what it was about, I knew right away I needed to read it and I do not regret it. I am so thankful for, the tips and advice and the affirmation I received from reading it. I’ve read it twice now and I’m so thankful that she wrote it. It has helped me at has helped my sister and a friend of mine and I have no doubt it will continue to help hundreds if not, thousands of others.

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Possibly the BEST Boundary Book I've read

Considering her Christian reach, she did the 'unthinkable' and divorced a boundary-less husband, and it was RIGHT and so healthy! So proud of her but even prouder she formulated the 'how to' book. Includes how to keep and maintain boundaries and access with love, grace and accountability! I love it love it and I think everyone could benefit from reading this !

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Recommend if you are thinking about or going through divorce

24 years of marriage, I know I tried. Walked through this as part of Proverbs 31 online bible study 2 months into my separation and it has truly made my decisions valid.

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Authentic!

Well written and such a timely message for me as I struggle through some rough relationship issues. Lysa speaking her own message provided an extra sense of authenticity and compassion.

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A Must Read for those in Crisis

If you are in crisis or know someone in crisis, please read/listen to this book. It is not fun, but breakthroughs in thought will come. You are in my prayers!
Suzanne

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